Its OK to feel proud
I have had a moment to reflect. I have changed so much in the past 10 years. Most of us have, but do we reflect, regroup and allow ourselves to feel something?
It's been a ride, mostly an incredible ride but not without its challenges...divorce, remarried, owned 3 houses, 6 kids in total, 7 countries, community work, own 4 businesses, part of 5 boards, many multi day hikes, my son being diagnosed with the autoimmune disease- T1 diabetes, watched a cousin (like a sister) turn to gangs and meth, a business break up with one of my fav people, death of family / friends and the list goes on. We all have a story.
What it all means for me?...I am softer, more connected, have far more self awareness, I have built resilience, i'm not so much of a people pleaser..or someone that says yes to everything. My coaching business is now based around what feels right for me with a strong base to support people and businesses to transform. Most importantly, I have more energy and can spread my energy.
I have gone from thinking I need testosterone to be 'successful' as a leader, owner and in a board room.. to realising I want to showcase all people, diversity, my feminine side, and stand out with a bit of difference. This doesn't mean I become victim, this doesn't mean I'm a push over, or a feminist...but it does mean it ok to embrace me and draw from my strengths and values ....that are genuinely me. I don't need an armour up anymore or have a facade.
I feel proud. It is ok to be proud. How often do we hide this fact? Tall poppy is still prevalant, particularly in South Canterbury as a women. Imposter syndrome is stopping people from being incredible. I see it everyday. I want to change this. I want to empower women, men and everyone that wants to make an impact in their...for the better.
We have just sold our cafe which my husband and I poured our hearts into. What a feeling!!!!
Why tell you all this? We need to celebrate success and the fact that most of us (who are able) get up every day and do our best. There are times (moments) where I get a set back, feel sad, angry and 'not good enough'. There are people I pour energy into that I can't help through change and people who have let me down. BuT people, just keep doing your best and celebrate small joys....and big. If you fall down, you choose to get back up. You can do this! You create your destiny. Get curious, you don't always have to be status quo or on the rat race. Start finding purpose, start driving forward and don't ever forget the everyday small aspects that are part of this kick arse journey. PS. 3 of my children and I got to be part of this awesome colour video 2 days ago...courtesy of Harcourts who are our major sponsor for Geraldine Festival. Marlo looks overjoyed .
We are off to Bali in a couple of days, looking forward to sun, culture, family time and some adventures!
Xx